Ask the Oracle

Amy, thank you for your question,” What direction is my relationship going?”. Before I answer, I will tell you a little bit about how I read. Tarot, oracle cards, Runes or any other form of divination tool is like using a translator for information from the other side. In a one on one reading I usually just channel, but since in print, we are limited to a few paragraphs and you cannot catch tone or expression, cards seem best.

The question you asked is very very broad, and we could be here all day discussing the ins and outs. So to simplify I have pulled three cards to see into the,” nature of the relationship”. Or more simply the reason you were motivated to ask the question on the first place. I am using the Gypsy deck of Oracle cards.

The first card is The Oracle: Seeking wisdom and guidance from elders. I interpret this to mean not only asking the Modern Pagan for a reading but listening to the voices of wisdom in your life. Mother, friends, etc. In the end you have to make your own decision, but I often find that the opinions of the people that you are close to are often correct.

The second card I pulled is The Harlequin: true feelings are masked. Someone is not showing their true face, and I get the feeling that is not you. The feeling I get is that you know for the most part what you feel, but it is your significant other that is causing the feelings of uneasiness inside you. This card says, ”double check the facts. Wait. Someone is not showing their whole face”.

The third and final card is The Gryphon: Honor and good luck. This shows that everything will work out in the end. The previous card showed that the issue was trust, so either way you will emerge from this triumphant. Trust your instincts and deepest feelings combined with common sense and you will know what to do. You will get know within three months what it is that you seek.

*This reading was done by RetroKali.

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My significant other and I have recently hit a very large bump in the road. One that I’m not sure I can get over, or want to. Are we heading toward splitsville, or will we work it out?
~ Lost

Hello Lost!  Thanks for writing in and letting me tackle your question for Ask the Oracle!  I have completed your reading using four cards from the Mythic Tarot.  I usually do a three card spread for readings like this, but felt a tug to draw a fourth to get a clearer understanding of what is going on at the base of the situation, so I listened to my tug and I did.

The four cards that appeared for you today in order are: The Ace of Wands, The Lovers, and The Hierophant and at the base of the reading is the Three of Cups.

I am not sure how long your significant other and you have been together.  But there are two or three major themes running through this reading and they are leading to me to believe that you are facing a place in your relationship that is more than a speed bump, it’s more like you’ve finally gotten off the entrance ramp to life and are finally making your way down the interstate together.  In other words, the reality of life has sat into your relationship.  After the initial getting to know each other, celebrating being together, settling into each other, now you are at that spot most people dread in relationships and you’re having to learn to navigate that life you have together.  This is not easy to say the least.

The Ace appears and speaks of a time of having a lot of raw and creative energy.  There are lots of new ideas, a feeling that life can be more than what it is now.  Even when it seems like you have everything you could possibly ask for or want out of life – literally others may see that you have the world in the palm of your hand, you find yourself dissatisfied, there’s a nibble, something tugging you to explore new ideas, goals, dreams and places. You can’t seem to ignore this restlessness, and indeed, you are being drawn toward a new journey opening up before you.

But this may lead to a difficult situation or decision that must be made.  The Lovers in the Mythic deck depicts Paris as he’s been commanded to judge a beauty contest between Aphrodite, Hera and Athene.  Talk about being in between a rock and a hard place!  No matter what he decides, he faces the wrath of two Goddesses. I would not want to be him for any amount of glory or money!  And perhaps you’re feeling like you don’t either.  Regardless, hard choices about your path and your love life must now be made.  The tarot asks you to carefully consider and weigh your options. The choices that we make in these situations are less about love and relationships and more about learning and deciding what we value in life and that is perhaps the best way to make your decision because The Lovers, along with the Hierophant BOTH lead you toward approaching decisions through intellect, rationally seeking to develop your own sense of philosophy about the world and your place in it.

The tarot is asking you to carefully consider the consequences of your actions, because no matter what you do, there are going to be consequences and they are of your own creation – ready or not – the time is here and it’s up to you – the responsibility for this one can’t be put on fate or anyone else but yourself.

Ultimately you’re dealing with more a quest for the next step in your life and who you want to be.  You’re learning about your own sense of values, and what your personal philosophy really is.  The love situation is a reflection – or a part of this bigger theme in your life, and it’s all being exacerbated by this sense of restlessness and what now – who are we to each other and where are we going that’s going on between the two of you right now.

Are you beginning to see each other for who you really are?  Is the reality of your life together becoming manifest?  If so, how do you decide how to travel that path together or if you really can at all?  Is this more about your relationship or about where you’re headed in life in general?

Unfortunately I can’t give you those answers.  But through rational examination of who you want to be and where you’re heading – you can.

I hope this reading has helped illumine some of this issue for you, Sadie and perhaps given you some ideas on how you can proceed to tackle this problem for yourself. I wish you the best of luck!

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